Do you have self-love?

Attributions: 
Millie Durfee

The mirror. We all have various feelings about this object, but you have a special one. You look into it every day and try not to think about all the judging eyes, advertisements, and words that the world and people claim defines you. The American society has been telling people what we should look like since the early 1920s, even famous beauty icon Marilyn Monroe was told she wasn’t enough for Hollywood. Unreachable beauty has been a part of ancient cultures, since 3000 BC and it’s time to change.

Looking back, what has been considered beautiful has changed immensely. For example in ancient China women would bind their feet into a mangled mess to fulfill the beauty standard of small feet, but now our society is much more sneaky about how they convey beauty. Our society loves to pick on us, and put us down for being ourselves. What we don’t realize is they’re putting it into our minds slow and stealthily like a cheetah waiting to pounce on its victim. The average person see’s over 5000 ads a day and 90 percent of them are in some way conveying what we should be, buy, and believe is true.

Break out of society's mold (you can gain the confidence back) by doing simple things through your day to make life tailored to you. First you need to have complete self love. It's going to be hard, since you have drilled bad thoughts into your brain for years, but it is going to change your life. You need to repeat to yourself throughout the day that you love one simple part of your body that it’s absolutely perfect to you in your mind. Start with your brain and say, “My brain is full of beautiful electrons that give me the power to be beautiful!” Do this for a week and when you feel ready move on through the top of your head down to the tips of your toes. It may take a long time, but you will feel immensely better.

Start to use the raw things you were born with that makes you unique. For a week embrace what makes you unique, whether that be your natural hair, face, or personality. You have full freedom to be you, don’t think about what other people see you as, their thoughts and words will not matter in the future. They won’t affect who you can become, or who you truly are. They’re just words; sounds that go through the air and can mean nothing to you. You are in control of what you bring into your mind, and if a condescending phrase is said, just let it be. Don’t take it.