Why am I single?

Millie Durfee


Why am I single? We have all asked ourselves this question at least once before, and sometimes it’s hard to understand why it isn’t happening for you. Your not alone; there are, on average, 45.2 percent of the American population that is single just like you. Now cheer up here are some tips on how to get rid of the lousy feeling we all get when we don’t get a second date.

You love yourself to much or not at all. When your around someone, you want to learn about them and hear about who they truly are, or what they like to do while their alone when they aren't being influenced by the world. If you are to focused on you and you haven’t learned a thing about your date, then you're talking too much and not letting your date express themselves or share a connection with you. You may come off as vain, narcissistic, or arrogant.

While on the other hand if you are too shy, quiet, or insecure, you can come off as a hard person to get to know and talk to. Nobody wants to have to battle with someone just to hear about what they like.

Confidence is key. Have you ever wanted to go up to someone and just confidently ask them out or get to know them, but you’ve convinced yourself they’re not going to reject you? Well here's a little secret that recently made sense in my mind: how do you know if they don't like you if your rejecting yourself before they even get the chance to speak or look at you? Just have confidence, even if you’re what the world considers un-attractive. If you have full confidence in yourself you can do anything.

Put yourself out there. If you need to make up an excuse why you can’t go to a dance, date, or activity because your afraid of putting yourself out there, try it just once and see what happens. If you need a friend to go with you to a party then take someone who will give you support, and just be yourself. After all, life is made up of little moments and if your life is just made out of regrets, that you didn’t try harder, or you didn’t do it out of fear of rejection. Then don’t have regrets make this year the moment in life that you can become a person your proud of, that you won’t regret in the future.

Have Fun! This might be a simple tip for others, but some people are too uptight and worry about dumb things. Think about it, when have you been happiest? When you’re you, you should feel happy and accepted. If your date doesn't like the way you truly are and they want to change you, don’t let them, you have someone out there that will love the true you, not the alter ego you want to be. Have a good time, experience life in a way you haven’t before, experiment in your interests and go out and enjoy life.

If you have in anyway related to these tips on how to not be single, it’s highly recommended that  you listen and take into account what you can do to correct your adventure in finding your other half. Don’t be so pressured to go out into the world and immediately find the person of your dreams, because in reality no ones perfect. Just try your best to have fun, meet people, and don’t regret showing people who you are. Good luck PHS and may all your date experiences be ones for the book.